Go Big or Go Home!
There’s a lot of encouragement to dream bigger, —stretch, reach, enlarge. But more important than the size of the dream is where it’s really coming from and why.
Is your dream really God’s vision for you?
Not all dreams bring life.
For nine years my dream was to earn a Ph.D. in Hebrew Bible from Vanderbilt University and replace my mentor as the Chaplain at my alma mater, teaching in the Religion Department. Nothing could dissuade or sidetrack me. I spent a ridiculous amount of money, moved my family twice, and sacrificed almost everything for this dream. Eventually, the hard work paid off and I was admitted to the program.
Here’s what’s so crazy —never once did I stop to ask God if my dream was His vision or seriously pray, “Not my will, but Yours be done.” I needed the dream to come true. My identity was tied to its fulfillment.
A Dream Factory From Hell
Our greatest temptations always target our true identity, “Who are you really?” but seldom do we think of our dreams as sources of temptation. In his novel Perlandra, C.S. Lewis describes our core temptation as self-absorption and the dreams that follow.
In Lewis’ story, the “un-man” tempts the woman to live with a mirror, to “walk alongside oneself as if one were a second person and to delight in one’s own beauty.” Basically, he tempts her to become obsessively self-conscious, “Think about yourself, your potential, and compare yourself to others all the time.” He offers her a dramatic and puffed up view of herself to take her mind off her true self. “I want you to gain a dramatic view of yourself as the center of all things, and then to pity yourself when you are not.”
Deep introspection is a dream factory from hell. It’s worlds away from God’s gift of identity and vocation (calling). It traffics in envy, moves easily between pride and insecurity, commodifies relationships, and ultimately erodes the very thing it aims to obtain: fullness of life.
There’s a fundamental choice we all have to make about our dreams that’s captured well by juxtaposing two statements:
- Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself. –George Bernard Shaw
- Very truly I tell you, the Son can do nothing by Himself; He can do only what He sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does. –Jesus (John 5:19)
Shaw’s statement makes perfect sense, if there isn’t a God who created you with a design for your life. If there is, every moment and every ounce of energy spent on “creating yourself” takes you further and further away from your true self that God is calling forth. Jesus said, “My ‘bread’ (here we can insert ‘dream’) is to do the will of Him who sent me.” So, the fundamental choice is, “Do you turn inward, or look outward to God for your life’s vision? Do you pull yourself up by your bootstraps, creating your own path, or do you listen for God’s leading?
If your life’s dream is to fulfill God’s vision, then your main responsibility is to hear and obey God’s Word and voice.
We celebrate the promise in Jeremiah 29:11:“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” But if we read on, the next two verses describe the relationship that gives birth to the vision: “Then you will call on Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. You will seek Me and find Me when you seek Me with all your heart.” (Jeremiah 29:12-13)
Our dreams steal joy when we confuse them for God’s vision. So, how do we avoid this hijacking?
Go to the Garden Before You Go All In
Jesus prays in the Garden of Gethsemane, “Take this cup from Me. Yet, not My will, but Yours be done.” We need to release our dreams to God and test them by fire. Kierkegaard once wrote, “Purity of heart is to will one thing.” When our dream is that one thing, it’s a good sign that the dream is misplaced. When we need a personal dream to be fulfilled, it’s a good sign that it won’t be fulfilling.
One thing we learn about our dreams in the Garden of Gethsemane is that we must crucify anything and everything that competes for God Himself as our “one thing.”
Personal Dreams and Real People
Oswald Chambers once wrote, “The most important aspect of Christianity is not the work we do, but the relationship we maintain. This is all God asks us to give our attention to and it is the one thing that is continually under attack.”
People matter; things don’t. We all possess a need for both belonging and distinction. Individuality is important, but when driven to excess, it erodes fullness rather than creating it. The more we find our identity in our relationships, the healthier we are and the more joy we’ll experience. A restless drive toward achievement usually reveals a deficit of being and a misguided attempt at filling it.
Our dreams steal joy when we value their fulfillment more than relationships.
It took me quite a few years and detours to learn these lessons on dreams and if I could summarize a few takeaways for how to make sure that you’re pursuing the right dream for the right reason they’d be:
- Seek to advance in the stages of prayer.
- If you struggle to pray and discern God’s voice, a good place to start is to read Richard Foster’s book, Prayer.
- Today, choose to resist preoccupation and introspection and be fully present to God and people. “This is the day that the Lord has made, I will rejoice (choose joy!) and be glad in it.” (Psalm 118:1)
- Don’t worry about God withholding His will.
If you have a dream, but you’ve also spent time in the Garden praying, “Not my will, but Yours be done,” you don’t sense any check in your spirit, and wise friends and mentors bless it, feel free to “go unless you get a no.”
Isaiah 30:21 says, “Whether you turn left or right, your ears will hear a voice saying, ‘this is the way, walk in it.’” No one wants you to know God’s will more than God. Most of His will is clearly laid out in Scripture and when it comes to specific leading, the promises in Jeremiah 29:11 are yours when you choose the posture of Jeremiah 29:13, “You will seek Me and find Me when you seek Me with all your heart.”
You Are Free!
“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” (Galatians 5:1)
Bondage comes wrapped in many packages. Big dreams can be blessings or burdens. It all depends on where your identity lies.
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