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Our Family Secret

September 16, 2014
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When we walk through dark or difficult places, there are always lessons to be learned. By the time we get to the other side of a trial, we have keen insights. Occasionally, we’ll be pulling from those insights, asking the question: What would you have done differently if given the chance?

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Help…They’re Stealing My Peace!

July 22, 2014
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“Help, they’re stealing my peace!” How often have we said this? The day starts out right. Coffee by the pool… A little worship music and a reflective read through a morning devotional… …but then it quickly spirals into what feels like an all-out assault on our peace. The phone call. The words with your spouse. The kids’ third argument of the day. The inconsiderate tone, again. Relationships that are already strained can quickly chip away at the peace you’re “supposed to be able to enjoy in your home.” When Peace Seems Elusive God’s peace comes with God’s presence. Click To Tweet That’s good news —especially when we are feeling robbed. There is a higher place than the one we are seeing at the moment. I have found, after overcoming some great hurdles in my own family, that we can run right to Jesus’ teaching when family difficulties and a clear…

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A Better Way to Ground Your Teen

July 17, 2014
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In a moment of desperation, have you ever announced to your teenager, “That’s it! You’re grounded for life!” These words are actually a better vision of what we want for our teens than they appear to be at first glance. Teenagers need to be “grounded.” They need deep roots and a strong sense of identity that comes from nurture and structure. In reality, your teen will become grounded. She will find a place to belong and a community to affirm her identity. Will it be your home? Or will your lose your role to a peer group? The challenge we face as parents is how to ensure that our family remains their home base. How does this happen? What does this healthy, nurturing soil look like that is conducive to being “grounded?” Belonging Your teen is becoming more independent, but still needs to feel like he belongs in your family,…

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Healing Scriptures for Relationships

July 11, 2014
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Sometimes, we just need to get alone and meditate on healing Scriptures and encouraging words. Anywhere you are during the day can become a type of sanctuary. The Spirit of God is within you, so your SUV, your shower, your walk-in closet, or the laundry room can instantly become a place of worship and meditation. Really, anywhere you are can be a holy sanctuary. All you have to do is recognize that God is with you and take a minute to turn aside to Him. Below, I’ve compiled some encouraging words and healing Scriptures for marriage and relationships. One of my favorite quotes from Oswald Chambers is, “The most important aspect of Christianity is not the work we do, but the relationship we maintain. This is all God asks us to give our attention to and it is the one thing that is continually under attack.” Read these healing Scriptures,…

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Your Greatest Enemy In Conflict

July 1, 2014
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“Remember who the real enemy is.” It’s one of the most haunting lines from the second Hunger Games movie. Probably because the truth in that line hits us so profoundly. It bothers us how quickly and completely we can forget and allow our perception to become skewed the minute conflict strikes. Relationship Problems… Your spouse does something inconsiderate, but it’s not the first time. You’re hurt but you don’t want to say, “That hurt my feelings.” Instead, you speak harshly, emotionally withdraw, or both. The conflict escalates until the peacemaker in the relationship offers a repair attempt and then you’re back to normal. Like wheels that fall into ruts on a well-worn dirt path, your relationship probably has ruts that you naturally slide into when a conflict rises. The other day, Bonnie and I had a small “disruption,” and I chose the emotional withdrawal approach. As soon as we get…

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